3 Hacks For Taking Your Power Back
3 Hacks For Taking Your Power Back Oct 4Written By Nicole ManningFor most of my life, I thought there was something wrong with me. It seemed like no matter what I did or how hard I tried, I would always piss someone off. If I pleased one person I would disappoint another. I strived to be accepted by making the people around me happy. If I wasn’t hired for a job, it meant that I still had work to do on myself. When a guy dumped me, I would drive myself crazy trying to figure out what I could do better. If I saw my ex dating another girl, I wondered what she did for him that I couldn’t. If a photography client wasn’t happy with their photos, I’d do whatever I could to avoid them.Not only did I believe there was something wrong with me, I allowed the words of my family, friends, and coworkers to define who I was. Anytime I was judged or ridiculed, I allowed the words to define who I was and stop me from moving forward. It sounds funny to say now but I had no idea that their words weren’t facts! I was handing out my power like a pack of gum. Taking things personally was how I lived my life because I didn’t know there was another way. It wasn’t until 3 years ago that I finally found out the real truth. That the way people reacted to me had NOTHING to do with me.Let me say that again, in case you didn’t catch it the first time: THE WAY PEOPLE REACTED TO ME HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. Like woah. Yeah I know it’s a doozy :)📷Are you tired of feeling attacked? Let me help you out with this free download! Sign up for my email list to get instant access to the Roadmap for Taking Your Power Back. In this e-guide, you’ll not only learn the 5 hacks for taking your power back but you’ll also learn how to apply them in your life so that you can quit taking things so personal.Sign UpWe respect your privacy.After I learned this piece of information, I had to dig even deeper. Enter the power of Pinterest.Taking things personally didn’t have to be a way of life for me anymore. The feelings of being attacked, having to explain myself 500 times to everyone, and my fear of disappointing my family slowly began to disintegrate. And the best part? I could finally feel free to be who I really was. I wasn’t sure who that was yet but I knew I had just opened the door to a journey of healing that would take me on the wildest ride of my life.Over the last 3 years, I’ve documented my journey from being wounded to becoming a Wild Woman. The 5 hacks you’ll learn about in this blog post are the exact steps I took to reclaim my power so I could stop being a doormat once and for all!
Hack #1- Self forgiveness. Honor, forgive, and let go of your past. When you take things personally, it usually has something to do with a past experience or failure. This is why forgiving yourself is the first thing to do when reclaiming your power. Go get a journal from your local Dollar Store and write out all of the crap you’ve done to yourself and other people. What are the things that people tend to throw in your face? For example, I was a bit promiscuous growing up -hey having a lot of sexual experience isn’t a bad thing- so when I dated someone who knew me from my earlier days, they would bring up my many partners as a way to make me feel bad about myself when we were in a fight. Honor, forgive, and let go. Since I’ve done the work with this situation, no one can shake me with this anymore. Honestly, I LOVE this part of my past now. I would give it a big old kiss if I could!This stops others from having any control over you and allows you to keep it.
#2 Hack- Refocus/ Reframe Meditate to get out of your head and observe from a birds eye view. When you feel attacked, your mind immediatly begins to overthink. Then you turn a situation into something its not and that can bring on even more drama. The problem here is that you’re spending way too much time in your damn head. But here’s the good news, you can stop doing it today by creating a habit of meditation.Whether you have experience with meditation or you’re brand new to it, download the Headspace app ASAP and take the meditation course for self identity .Another tool is to distract yourself, or refocus onto something else. Pause and take a few breaths. Meditate for 3 to 5 minutes. Then, start to work on a project or anything that doesn’t involve venting to a friend or coming up with plans of retaliation.At the end of the day, journal about the situation that happened where you felt attacked and ask yourself:“Will this matter in 5 months? 5 years? “Also, put yourself in the other persons shoes and find a way to empathize. Taking the focus off of yourself and onto the other person is where its at.
#3 Hack- Detaching with love. Allow others to have their OWN experience.Wait? WHAT? You mean I can’t control the way someone else experiences their life? I don’t have the power to make things feel GOOD for others? To make things less painful? Easier? Feel better?I used to believe that if my partner, kids, Mom, Dad, or bestfriend wasn’t liking the way their life felt, It was my responsibility to FIX things for them. To make their experience less painful and if that didn’t happen, I would feel SO guilty.Can you relate?Us Moms are great with this. If our kids don’t love their life, it’s our fault.Imagine if you stepped back to ALLOW your kids to have their own experience?https://www.thesoulrelaunch.com📷Nicole ManningNicole is a Soul Care & Mindset Coach For Moms who have experienced a life change or awakening. She guides them to healing from codependency so that they can take their power back without feeling the Mom guilt. She offers private 1:1 coaching containers, a group coaching program, a digital e-book, & an online course for finding purpose.
