5 Limiting Beliefs For Abundance

5 Limiting Stories For Abundance

5 Limiting Stories That Are Keeping You Stuck

Mar 14

Written By Nicole Manning

My least favorite question in the world, yet most transformational, is……”What are your limiting stories?”

AH! No matter how hard I tried, in the beginning of my healing journey, I had the hardest time coming up with an answer on the spot. Apparently, I had no idea what I believed in & what I based my reality on besides if I believed in God or not. This was one of the biggest reasons I invested in my first business coach, to call out the stories I was playing on repeat that were keeping me from seeing success in my online business because I couldn’t find them by myself.

It wasn’t until I started to coach others on their mindset did I figure out the magic key:To become aware of the limiting stories we’re playing on repeat, we have to pay attention throughout our day.

Paying attention. HA! There was the culprit. I’ve never been very good at paying attention to things. (Limiting story #1…..lol)

On the bright side, this told me what I needed to work on next: Mindfulness.

In the past, I would’ve said, “ Oh well that’s just not going to happen because I’m ADHD, I can’t focus on one thing so forget it!”

(Thank God I was transitioning away from the lack mindset.)

The good news is: The thoughts you’ve been playing on repeat over & over for the last 30+ years are literally ingrained into your mind with these things called neural pathways (a belief). Since you created those pathways, it means that you’re also able to create NEW ones.!

How do we create new neural pathways?

By repeating affirmations & searching for the evidence of the new belief (neural pathway) being true. This is also a good way to clear a limiting belief without replacing it.

For example, the belief, “All rich people are mean & snobby” , is keeping you from taking action towards becoming rich because you fear that you’ll become mean if you get rich. This means that it’s LIMITING you from reaching your full potential, or reaching the desire of being rich.

To clear this belief, you’d find one piece of evidence, a nice rich person, that proves “all rich people are NOT mean & snobby.”.

See how that works?

If only I had known 20 years ago we were able to create new beliefs! To think of how many decisions I would have made differently, my life would probably be in a different place. And I’m not sure if I would like that! I love what I’ve been through to reach this amazing & beautiful place I’m at now!

THis isn’t something we grow up learning about, ya know? So until we know that we’re able to do this, think different thoughts, we won’t do it. We’ll continue doing the best we can at the time.

The stories we were taught growing up have been etched in stone. Atleast that’s what it felt like. Their way was the only way so to think we can CHOOSE to rearrange all of that, it’s not easy at first.

I believe this is why this is such a difficult practice to get started, yet offers the most trannsfromation. Unless you already know it’s okay to think differently than your family, you might be afraid of not belonging. It isn’t until you reach a certain level of self awareness can you step back to look at the stories you used to structure your life around to re-write them to feel in alignement with your truth.

📷Your reality is your reality. You don’t know what you don’t know. This means you won’t know that you have limiting stories & beliefs until….you do. I remembering feeling ANGRY when I first realized that I could create new beliefs. It felt like someone was playing a bad joke on me. “You mean to tell me I could have felt better this entire time?! Asshole! ”

Calling out your own limiting stories can be a struggle. When we’ve been living under a rock, it can be hard to rattle off our beliefs when someone asks us on the spot. So, to help you get started on your transformation, here are 9 of the first stories & beleifs I shifted for myself that helped me feel better, raise my vibration, & heal from my past.

Why would you want to create a new belief or story?

#1) Ya know that morning habit you’ve been trying to start for the past 3 years? Or why everytime you lose 20 lbs, it’s not long before it comes back? You can thank your limiting beliefs for this! There is a deeply rooted belief or story that says. “Thats not part of who I am, I’m not a morning person!’ The worst part is that you aren’t consciously aware of them in the moment so it makes it very difficult to catch them.

#2) Too feel better than you do right now & manifest more abundance by raising your vibration, or mood..

We attract what we are which means if we’re vibrating at a low frequency, where these limiting beliefs land us, we’ll attract low vibing situations. But if we’re vibrating at a higher frequency, we will attract other high vibing situations.

Does that make sense for you?

So how do you catch these limiting stories that you’ve repeated over & over?

By staying mindful of your triggers, or the things that cause feelings of frustration or resistence.

Until you get present & become the witness of your mind. only then are you able to become aware of these false stories behind the self sabotage.

When you come across a limiting story, the first question to ask is: Is this really true?

Then ask: What must I believe for me to feel angry right now?

Here are 5 limiting stories you can start working on today! Like, right now.

“I’m mean if I say no.” If you’re a people plleaser, this one can be the hardest. When a family member or close friend asks you for help when you’ve already made prior commitments, to keep them from being mad or disapoointed in you, you say “Yes, sure I can help!” but when it comes time to help, you’re no where to be found or you show up to help with an underlining tone of resentment, “I’d rather be doing the thing I originally had planned before I said yes to you.”

Sound familiar?

In a desperate attempt to stay on their ‘good side’, you told a white lie with the hopes that maybe you’ll become available at the time they need help. For whatever reason you said yes, you have a deep fear of rejection or not being liked. Therefore, you tell people what they want to hear instead of speaking the truth which would have been, “Sorry! I already have plans!”

Easy peasy.

For me, this was the hardest story to shift because I had never seen someone politely turn down someone else. In my family, if we said no, there was a ton of guilt behind it.

SOLUTION: Say NO while also feeling good about it, start a self compassion ritual with the crystal Rose Quartz. It’s an amplifying crystal which means that it amplifies whatever emotion you’re needing support around! In this case: self compassion.

New belief: “It’s okay to say no when I have other plans. It’s okay to say no if I don’t want to do something or if it goes against my values. I can say no & choose to honor my energy first.”

2. “Rejection means that I’m not good enough.”

When we’re living in a reality where everything outside of us determines our worth, rejection can leave an emotional bruise that lasts for years. But does it really mean that? Or is that a belief you’ve inherited from your family & close friends?

You can choose for it to mean something that serves your highest good.

Coming up with new beliefs might feel a bit ‘wrong’ at first, or like you’re cheating at life but after awhile, the wrong-ness is outweighed by how f*cking good it feels to not feel bad.

Instead of repeating the story that rejection is bad, how about repeating the story that rejection is protection. It’s information that is telling us more about the person doing the rejecting than it is of ourselves. It’s protecting us from future harm & making the wrong decision. Doesn’t that thought feel better?

Repeat the old belief: It’s bad to be rejected.

Now, repeat the new belief: Rejection is protection.

Just by shifting the meaning of rejection to mean something that supports your growth raises your vibration & helps you think more clearly!

Tool: Our self belief lies in the Solar Plexus so working with the color Yellow will help this process.

New Belief: “Rejection is protection. I trust that I’m divinely guided.”

3. “I have to explain myself because I need a good reason for doing something for me.”

Feeling like you have to explain yourself is a trauma response. At some point in your life, maybe your childhood, you learned that if you’re not able to do something for someone else or you pay more attention to yourself than others, you have to explain everythiing you did instead of that thing. You felt the need to make excuses for why you weren’t able to meet someone else’s expectations.

TOOL: This is connected with how we express our truth which is in the Throat chakra., Visualize a blue orb at the base of your neck, on the inhale the light gets brighter, & it expands on the exhale. Do this 10 times x 3.

New Belief: “They don’t need to know everything about my business or why I chose not to do something. Its okay for me to share the bare minimum.”

4. “The thoughts that run through my head are facts.”

This one can be tricky & is a new belief that will take time to integrate. There are different types of thoughts. Thoughts that come from our Ego, or fear, & information that coomes from our Intuition, or love. These are phrases we’ve heard since we learned how to talk so they can easily seem factual. I mean,, why would be telling ourselves lies this whole time?

The phrases we hear in our mind, or automatic thoughts, are statements, opinions, & ideas that were created from our past experiences, situations, values, & stories we’ve picked up from our family & others. We put so much emphasis on the words that float in our mind that we take them for face value. For example, if we have a thought that ‘we aren’t skilled enough’ to apply for our dream job, instead of questioning it, we just don’t apply because we believe those words are facts.

This has kept us from making BIG moves in our life, more than likely keeping us stuck in self sabotage!

TOOLS: Catching our negative thought patterns lies in the 3rd Eye Chakra & takes mindful observation to stop them. To become the witness of our mind is the ultimate place to be. Spend 10 minutes per day in mindful meditaton with the intention of finding the space BETWEEN the thoughts you think. Remember, you are the THINKER of your thoughts, not the thoughts themselves.

New Belief: “Thoughts are not facts. I can question a thought if I don’t resonate with it anymore.”

5. “Wanting more than I have right now is greedy. I should be grateful.”

When you were little, I’m sure your Mom said, “ Be thankful for what you have Karen, not every kid gets a new coat for Christmas!” Okay, maybe your name isn’t Karen but at some point, you were told it’s rude to want more than what you have. This programmed belief led you to settling instead of feeling deserviing of your desires. If you’re like most of us, you probably stopped dreaming all together once you became an adult & moved out of your child hood home.

This is one limiting belief that really pisses me off! I can’t tell you how much my life changed once I decided that it was actually a GOOD thing to pay attention to what I want.

There;s nothing wrong with wanting more AS LONG AS you’re not basing your happiness on material things, or even non- material things like a romantic relationship.

For example, a belief of, “I’ll be happy when I have someone to share my life withsn,” isn’t going to help you feel any better than believing it’s not okay to want more.

TOOL: Our desires are birthed through our Sacral Chakra, orange is the color & it lies a few inches below the navel. To work on healing the parts of yourself that believes its wrong to want more, start by sitting with this womb chakra. Either visualize an orange ball of light or sit with Red Jasper or Carnelian for about 10 to 15 minutes, once a day.

New Belief: It’s okay for me to speak my desires & dreams because they’re mine. As long as I’m happy with WHO I am, I can have whatever the FUCK I want.”

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