How To Self Coach YourSelf
How To Self Coach Yourself To Feeling Better CoachingEnergyMindsetFeb 17Written By Nicole ManningImagine waking up tomorrow morning to see a sparkly magic wand laying beside you on your bed. You pick it up as you cuss the kids in your head for not picking up their toys the night before!As you carry the wand into e living room to put back into the kids’ toy box, you realize this wand feels different. You pause, you look at the 3 foot wand (made of whatever your heart desires, for me, it’s clear quartz or amethyst, but maybe for you it’s metal or copper or plastic….) shining in the light from the bay window behind the toy box. Admiring it’s energy & appeal.Appeal? What’s up with this thing?Then, your child walks into the living room, sees the wand & says, “ Mom! Where did you get that shiny wand? Is it for me?!!!”You reply,” So you’re telling me that you’ve never seen this?“Kid, “Nope. But I’ll take it?” LOLYou shrug it off while you get the kids ready for school just in time for the bus! As soon as you wave them off, you turn around to jog inside & grab the wand.You say outloud, “What is this thing? And where did it come from?”That’s when you hear a whispy voice of Love in your head say, “ It’s your magic wand to take your power back & it came from many Moms before you. Very likely one of you ancestors. This wand will fix every stressful situation in your life as long as you set an intention & direct it’s energy with Love.”Huh? Direct who’s energy?“Your magic wand will do just as you say to do as long as it serves your highest good & the highest good of all. Be very carefull though, if you get carried away you’ll dull it’s sparkle!”Okay, how do I do this? What do I use it on?“In times of extreme stress, sadness, guilt, shame, self doubt, insecurity, lack off confidence, procrastination, basically any time you’re experiencing low vibrational frequencies that can send you into depression. This wand will aleviate ALL stress, unhealthy attachments, relieve sadness, erase fear, & boost your self love. When you feel like you have raised your level of awareness & have control over your thoughts & emotions, & can easily raise your vibration on your own, pass this magic wand onto the next Mom who needs it. =”How will I know who needs it?“Oh my love, you will know. “ :)Your Higher Self Is Your Magic Wand This magic wand is your higher self. This ‘higher self’ can also be referred to as your truest nature. The version of you BEFORE the world got ahold of you.When I learned about this, I thought…. “ Why didn’t anyone tell me about this? Why didn’t anyone tell me that I had the power to feel & believe what felt good to me? Does anyone else know about this? Does my Mom know about this? “The truth is, you have a magic wand available to you at all times meaning, you hold the power in your hands.To tap into this magic wand, the first thing to do is listen to your insticnts & hunches (aka intuition).Its likely that you’ve been told to stop using your imagination or to get out of “la la” land which is so BULLSHIT! There was no reason to stop imagining!I remember being on my knees, pleading with God to send me answers.I remember feeling defeated & confused, wishing someone would come along to tell me what move to make next. I couldn’t make a decision if my life depended on it. For 33 years, I lived for acceptance. I was lost. I wondered why I wasn’t good enough, or as pretty as the popular girl in school. I wondered why I couldn’t get my hair to look like hers, straight with no waves…I hated my wavy hair. I remember staring at her in the hallway of Junior High, with envy running through my veins. As I watched her friends crowd around her whileI have sought out healers & life coaches with the expectation that they would be able to heal me. As if they had this magic wand that I didn’t have access to. If they didn’t heal me, I would blame them for wrongly coaching me.How I Self Coached My Way To Feeling Better A little over a year ago, I invested in a High Level Business Coach with the expectation that she was going to lead me to making 6 figures in my coaching business within a year.I didn’t hesitate paying her the $1041 monthly fee to get started. And I did everything I could to make sure I had the next month’s payment saved.Everything was going perfectly. I had exactly the level of support & accountability that I had been searching for. I felt like I was on fire! Big things were about to happen in my life. I remember saying, “ 2021 is THE YEAR I’ll reach 6 figures with my coaching business!”But when the next month rolled around, I didn’t have all of the payment. There had been a few bills that were automatically taken out of my account, or something to that degree. Bottom line, I didn’t have the $1,014 to send to her.That’s when my inner critic began to spout off at the mouth:: That coach isn’t worth $1,000 per month! This is insane to even be paying her. What am I really getting for $1,000 per month? I think this was a bad idea. Her IG strategy just doesn’t align with me. She misled me.My mind began to search for every reason that made it OKAY that I wasn’t paying her that month. Eventually, we decided to end the coaching relationship due to my lack of funds. And I felt like a failure.I felt as if I wasn’t cut out to be a Spiritual Life Coach. In that moment, it was clear to me where my place was: A Mom with a story to tell & a FB group that holds space for other Moms to heal & share their stories.I was so devastated that I no longer has access to that level of support because I didn’t have enough money.But then, something happened… This is when my self coaching skills came in to save the day. (Skills I acquired when I was coaching myself & within my coaching training)I asked my self, “ Is this really true? Am I really cut off from that level of support?”And,” Is it really true that I can only reach 6 figures in my coaching business with a high level business coach?”No & No.Then I asked myself, “ Do I HAVE to make 6 figures this year?”No! I’d be happy with a reaching the first milestone of $30,000.I began to do the first thing everyone should do when they’re trying to believe something different: To find the evidence to back up the new story I was creating in my mind.After talking to a few of my coach collegues & doing a Google search, I found the website Score.org. It’s a website that provides resources, like FREE coaching, for entreprenuers.I knew there was another way to access support & accountability.In that moment, I felt a shift in my energy. I was beginning to create a better feeling story in my head: Yes, I did invest in something I wasn’t financially ready for but that doesnt mean that I’m not cut out to be a coach. It doesn’t mean that I can’t continue showing up & applying what I learned through that coaching program. It means that I have more information to review now. And I can say that I worked with a High Level Business Coach! If nothing else, atleast I gained some experience that I will apply moving forward with my own clients!I could’ve continue feeling sorry for myself & blaming the Business Coach, but I chose not to.I could’ve taken it personally & bashed her name all over FB, but I chose not to.I chose to take responsibility for the fact that I CHOSE to move forward on a big investment before I was financially ready.I knew it was still possible for me to build a sustainable business as a Spiritual Life Coach.And all of this happened, because I had already been self coaching myself through previous situations.What if I hadn’t done that? What if I had taken that situation as a sign from the Universe, or God, that I wasn’t meant to be a coach?I wouldn’t have participated in 4 outdoor events where I met 7 new ladies who were ready to make a commitment to themse;ves with Spiritual Life Coaching!You Are The Oracle You don’t need anyone else to TELL you the answers. You don’t need anyone else to learn the lesson of your situations.I believe the lesson from my experience with the High Level Business Coach was this: Don’t go into a coaching relationship expecting that coach to change your life or to make things happen in your life that you couldn’t do on your own. Go into a coaching relationship with the security of knowing that you already have everything you need to succeed but you would like someone to keep you accountable & consistent while also sharing their experiences. Go into a coaching relationship because you WANT to, not because you feel like that’s the only way to reach your goals.This experience showed me that I was disconnected from my truth & I was attached to outside influences, such as other’s opinions & judgements. It only took me sitting in meditation a little longer & asking different questions to reconnect with my higher guidance!You don't have to invest in a Life Coach or healer before you can open up to receive answers! You are MORE than capable to coach yourself to a better place right now!This is where Self Coaching & The Soul Relaunch Society FB Group comes in. You have the abillity within you right NOW to sit down, get present, ground your energy, & open up to recieve. The problem is that your human self is out of alignment with your Higher Self.And the other problem is that you aren't asking the questions!For the first 2 years of my awakening journey, I self coached my way out of: (….meaning I did it ALL by myself, no Therapist or Coach) Depression Anxiety Unhealthy relationships & friendships Underearning Addiction Low self worth Quieted the monkey mind.It wasn't until I felt 'good enough', or stable within my own healing, meaning that I got my mind & soul to a good place where I could feel safe enough to invest & confide into a professional Life Coach & Healer, did I then make a commitment to invest money into working with my first Intuitive Life Coach, Natalie Schulte.Then I went on to work with a High Level Business Coach, but…..well you know what happened with that. :)I ran out of money to pay my Business Coach.In that moment, I felt SO GRATEFUL that I had invested that time & energy into coaching myself to a better place first.(IMPORTANT NOTE: If you're struggling with any mental illness or a depression you can't get out of, absolutely work with a Therapist or Medical Professional that can help you stablize the chemicals in your body. They will help get to a place where you're able to show up for yourself & THEN you can start self coaching from there.)I've created the graphic below to help you get startd with Self Coaching your way out of low vibes. Right click to save on your phone or computer!📷Make it stand outWhatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.Here are the 9 keys to creating an effective, powerful self coaching practice! PLUS the 6 things to do in your sessions that will help you build a strong relationship with your Higher Self!(Make sure to right click on the graphic to save to your phone.)What does it mean to self coach? According to upskillcoach.com: Self Coaching is when you cultivate your own personal development & spiritual growth by accessing your own inner wisdom.A few tips to AMPLIFY your results: Detach from the Ego, aka the human part of us, to observe how you’re behaving & responding to stress. When you’re so attached to your issues, taking them personally, it’s impossible to see things through a clear filter! This is why you have to become aware of the fact that you are NOT your emotions & thoughts. Your true self, aka Higher Self, does not judge & she always comes from Love. The Ego is based in Fear. Journal, or document with voice notes, the situations you’re dealing with, how you’re dealing with them, & the choices you’re making. But most importantly, THE LESSONS you’re learning! Approach every situation with a beginner’s mind. Schedule your Self Coaching session in your calender!The 9 Keys To Creating An Intentional, Magical Self Coaching Ritual 100% Self Honesty!!! TAKE RESPONSIBLITY for your choices & where you are right now. Make a commitment. Schedule in a specific TIME on your calender for your ritual/ session. (Google Calender) Detach from ALL outside influences, opinions, judgements, & your Ego. (With Meditation) Quit judging yourself & the situations. (Radical Acceptance) Become the witness of your life. (Beginners Mind) Stay mindful of what you can & cannot control. (Locus of Control) Set intentions for how you will show up in your sessions. (How will you show up? What are you wanting to happen?)What does a Self Coaching session look like? What do I focus on? Now that you've created the structure, it's time to start your conscious healing journey! These 6 areas will help you build a solid foundation, & a heathy relationship with your Higher Self, so that you can continue rising & expanding into the best version of yourself with the least amount of resistance! Self Acceptance- Accept yourself for who you are & where you are right now Self Forgiveness- Let go of self resentment & grudges, it's time to move on! Self Love & Compassion- Show yourself how you want to be supported & loved. Self Trust- Stop 2nd guessing your every move. Once you get honest, with yourself, you'll have an easier time trusting! Self Belief- Create the evidence that you're able to accomplish whatever you set your mind to! Self Talk- Become aware of how you're speaking to yourself in your head. can be anything from coming up with an action plan, listing your strengths and weaknesses, reading a self-help book, or enrolling in a night class to supplement your learning. These are the types of activities that you’d do with a professional contracted coach. Working through the exercises on your own means you’re doing some self-coaching.Now, it’s your turn!Schedule in your self coaching session on your Google calender so that you can use your failures as feedback!If you feel like you're ready to start working with a Spritual Transformation & Mindset Coach, schedule your free Clarity Call here: https://calendly.com/the-soul-relaunch/30-minIf you resonate with this, I invite you to join me on Feb 28th through March 4th for our 5 Day Mindful Morning Challenge where I'll walk you through my Signature Coaching Process:Belief +Helaing+ Intuition+ Guidance+ Purpose.....that will take you from feeling defeated & powerless to healing from your past & standing in your power everyday by taking control of your mind & building a strong relationship with your Higher Self!Join here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61fc32936114df05454c519f
